Hi, I’m Aideen T. Finnola, but you can call me Aidy.

I'm a professional life coach, speaker, and author.

I’m an unapologetic and empowered survivor of and thriver after physical, emotional, psychological, and religious abuse. I’m an ex-community kid and straight spouse. I was raised by abusive parents who were zealous members of a fundamentalist, evangelical, charismatic, ecumenical covenant community cult. After I left the cult, I was married for twenty years to a closeted gay man who was emotionally and psychologically abusive. 

I’m unapologetic, meaning I don’t mince words about abuse.

I don’t make excuses for my abusers and say things like “They meant well." and "I know they loved me.” I'm empowered, meaning I don't live my life with a victim mentality. I was victimized, but I am not a victim.

I made it through the darkest and most painful days of my life because of the support and inspiration of others who had made it through their darkest and most painful days.


In return, it is my purpose to support and inspire others. 

I coach my clients with compassion, unique insight, and wisdom. I provide practical tools to support my clients in transmuting their pain into empowerment.

I am a professionally trained life coach and, if this stuff is important to you, I also have a BAEd degree in history and secondary education and an AA degree + Professional Certificate in interior design. I've taught at both the high school and college levels and I've won four state level ASID Design Excellence awards.



Linthicum Heights, Maryland